2013, SEE YA!!

2013 WAS A RUTHLESS BITCH; from the beginning to the end.  Some years are like that, life lessons, growing stronger...yes, I get it.  Well, I am over it!  Turning lemons in to lemonade, I know every positive thought there is, trust me.

Maybe it is odd numbered years that I struggle with?  I am a bit OCD.

I am looking forward to 2014.  Realistically, I know just because you hang up a brand new calendar it doesn't necessarily mean things will change.  I will make them change.  I will take the shit that was handed to me in 2013 and turn it into sugar.  I have a faithful God who is looking over me and is giving me opportunities.  He has blessed me so much thus far, I can hardly lose faith now, not when I need it the most.

I have enjoyed some of it, I won't lie.  It started off a bit rocky for Bryan and I, if you recall.  I love this person more than I could ever imagine, unconditionally; this year taught me that.  I don't know if people actually realize this until something threatens their relationship with their child; illness, circumstance, what-have-you.  Of course, I have always loved Bryan unconditionally even before he was born, but when there is a real chance that you may lose that relationship "that love" changes into some unexplainable love.  It was such a struggle for me to let him grow; it sounds so natural, him leaving home and becoming more independent; it's not.  At least not for this Momma Bear.  It was losing control, worry and anxiety.  Letting him go was the hardest thing that EVER had to do in my life. (I surrendered to therapy and started feeling much better, by the way.) He doesn't agree, but I think he has grown as person.  I hope 2014 brings him wisdom and he sees the opportunities life hands him and takes advantage of them.

Also, I have seen so many people that I love having an amazing 2013 and as I said before, seeing my friends and their families flourish makes me happy; their gorgeous children, other halves and friends having geniune fabulous times.  I appreciate their happiness, it has become a realization that life is too short to not appreciate the little things.  Cherish every detail, every memory and keep posting because I know that my happiness is right around the corner and in-the-mean-time, I'll cherish yours.

So, see ya 2013...Here's to a FABULOUS 2014!  Making memories, living life, laughing, loving & cherishing EVERY SINGLE MOMENT.

Facebook. If you don't like it...

Earlier today while I was perusing through Facebook I noticed a very specific status update.  This person was complaining about people checking into their gyms on a daily basis and how annoyed they were by those "friends" who did this.  One of the people who commented on this person's status stated that this is not what Facebook is for, she went on to say it was for catching up with "friends"...WOW, how naive.

As the day went on I pondered on this status (the office is clearly much slower then normal. ha.) and what annoys me about Facebook; what I came up with is that what annoys me most about Facebook is when people complain about what other people post.

Seriously, people post what is important to them.

I go to the gym on a semi-regular basis.  Do I check in?  Yes. I do. (not lately though, I haven't been bringing my phone) Why?  I think checking into the gym is a way for people make themselves accountable.  I know a lot of people who are very passionate about fitness and leading a healthy lifestyle.  If you can't stand when people post about their well being and making the extra effort to get to some place that may be a struggle to get to for them, then hide them in your news feed.

Many, many, many people post pictures of food.  I still can't wrap my head around this, but I am not passionate about food.  I don't judge my friends who are and do post pictures of food.  They often deserve to post pictures because they are super talented in the kitchen.  Once again, maybe your "friends" are posting their meals to keep themselves accountable for what they are putting into their bodies.  Many people who are watching their weight post pictures for moral support.  If you can't get on board with that then hide their new feed.

Most people my age are now posting about their young children.  They post A LOT about their young children, like when I say A LOT, I mean A LOT.  I love my friends and their kids, so I am not annoyed by this usually, unless they're discussing potty training or ANY THING that is expelled from their children's bodies.  I am actually happy by how in love my friends are with their kids and laugh at what they have to expect, cause I've been there.  I often ask myself, how did people figure things out about parenting before asking all of your friends on Facebook what to do first?  Hey, it's takes a village and I know this from experience, but if you're annoyed by these gorgeous little humans that are our future, then you can always block their news feed.

How to deal with "Negative Nelly" postings on Facebook?  Well, first keep in mind that EVERYBODY has bad days, but if a "friend" is consistently posting negative statuses maybe it is a call for help.  I am not a negative person, but I am real, I will absolutely write a blog that isn't always peaches & cream, so the same goes for my Facebook statuses.  If you don't care enough to reach out to those people who may really be asking for help behind these statuses then hide their news feed and call it a day.

During the past few years from January through April I post a lot about my charity 5k.  I know for a fact that people/my "friends" get annoyed with my incessant begging for their money for the cause that is SUPER IMPORTANT to me.  I have had people come out & tell me how annoying I can be...sorry if I don't give an f*#k.  You can simply hide me on your news feed.
 

The bottom-line is Facebook is annoying.  It's annoying because their are SO MANY different  personalities coming through on your feed.  Probably hundreds.  In one day, Facebook can be political, religious, a comedy show, a networking group, a self-help group, a cookbook, a greeting card, a travel guide, headline news, fundraising efforts & a sounding box.  That is part of the fun of it, right?  There is something about your "friends" that keeps you coming back.  I know how interesting my friends are, I bet yours are just as awesome behind all of those annoying posts.